According to writer Parker J. Palmer, a problem human beings may encounter is that of the “Divided Life”. He points out that children live integrated and undivided lives. There is no distinction between what is going on inside of them and what is going on outside. This is what it means to be a real human being.
However, as one grows into adulthood, this can change. In a family or in school, certain persons learn that it is not safe to be in the world as they truly are. If this person expresses his or her self to reveal true identity, true feelings, it would result in the experience of being marginalized, even hated. As a consequence, persons learn to play a role that is acceptable. It becomes a divided life.
Leading a divided life can be a source of pain. A gap exists between who a person is and the face that is put on for the larger world. This can lead to losing a great deal of energy that could otherwise serve mankind. As a divorce attorney in Clearwater FL, it has been my privilege to assist persons through a divorce who have suffered from living a divided life. As Parker points out, there is no sadder way to die than having never showed up in the world as one’s true self.
by Patrick Gaffney
